Every update of apache is a real pain for me and maybe most of the ColdFusion community. Each time the server engine is updated, the WebConnector has to be updated as well. In the current case, I decided to update my Mac OS finally to Leopard (10.5) and - bingo - with the apache update from 1.3 to 2.2 the whole connector stuff isn't working any more.
One solution might have been again to download the whole connector sources (XCode) and compile the connector myself - some hours work plus about 1-2 GB downloads for an about 90kb file.
The other solution: Follow these instructions and download the file offered for download.